In these days of widespread debauchery, concupiscence and uncleanness, married Christian couples are being bombarded with messages about sex from the church pulpit and various forms of Christian and secular media. Amidst these messages is the constant reassurance that the marriage bed is undefiled. Hebrews 13:4 is usually cited to “prove” the marriage bed is automatically and unconditionally undefiled in the sight of God:
Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.
Hebrews 13:4 does not make the case that the marriage bed is incapable of ever becoming defiled. Rather, it contrasts the purity of the marriage bed with the impure behavior of debauched individuals–whoremongers and adulterers.
Could it be that only the marriage bed as God intended it is undefiled? Has God placed any restrictions regarding sexual expression in marriage? Does God have a specific plan for the practical physical outworking of the marriage bed?
Romans 1:18-32 is addressed to people who knew God but refused to glorify him as God. Consequently they were unthankful and became vain in their imaginations and their foolish hearts were darkened. They actually changed the truth of God into a lie and worshipped the creature more than the Creator. In response to their wicked idolatry, God “gave them up to uncleanness through the lusts of their own hearts, to dishonour their own bodies between themselves.”
These verses should be instructive to the Christian. Those who hold the truth that is revealed in the Holy Bible while continuing to engage in unrighteous behavior are in danger of the judgment of God. God judges idolatry by giving idolaters over to uncleanness through the lusts of their own hearts. If you are committed to certain forms of sexual pleasure over and above your commitment to the revealed will of God then you are setting yourself up to be given up to uncleanness as well.
Who changed the truth of God into a lie, and worshipped and served the creature more than the Creator, who is blessed for ever. Amen. Romans 1:25
Do you serve the creature (including yourself) more than the Creator? If so, you are also in danger of being given over to vile affections (degrading, shameful passions).
Romans 1:26 reveals that God makes a clear cut distinction between natural sexual union and that which is against nature. God places intimate coupling that is against nature in the category of vile affections. Male and female homosexuals reject the God-designed natural use of the woman and dishonor their own bodies between themselves.
Women who are physically intimate with other women change “the natural use of the woman” because they reject God-ordained male with female coupling:
For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature: Romans 1:26
In like manner, men who reject the natural use of the woman work that which is unseemly in the sight of God:
And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompence of their error which was meet. Romans 1:27
Here again we see God’s division between the “natural use” and that which is not natural (unseemly). Like the women who rejected the natural use, the men also left the natural use of the woman because they rejected God’s natural order of things. In Romans 1:26 the women changed the natural use into that which is against nature and in this verse the men left the “natural use” of the woman and burned in their lust toward one another.
The Bible is clear that God has determined the sexual use of the woman. It is the natural use.
Adulterers and whoremongers often have relations confined to the natural use of the woman but that does not sanctify their actions in the sight of God:
Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge. Hebrews 13:4
God ordained one place for the “natural use” of the woman: the marriage bed. The marriage bed in which “the natural use of the woman” is not changed or abandoned is undefiled. What about Christian married couples who engage in not only “natural use” coupling as God intended but also engage in oral and/or anal practices inspired by the perverse spirits who work in those who reject the natural use of the woman? Does God condemn those of the same sex who go “against nature” while sanctioning the same behavior as long as it is performed in the marriage bed?
God cannot condemn the one while sanctioning the other. Both are the same behavior. Therefore, Sodomy and other types of unlawful (ungodly) sexual behavior cannot be brought into the marriage bed and it remain undefiled. There is nothing, absolutely, nothing that brings forth demon activity (demon possession) faster than unlawful (ungodly) sexual behavior. There is no way that Christ will continue to be joined to a saint if that saint practices such acts of depravity. I Corinthians 5 through 8 speak of fornication as having to do with two persons or more. Paul also says that such acts separate us from Christ absolutely. Repentance can come and people can be forgiven and Christ be joined again with us, but that does not mean that any can go back into such activity.
Nothing is more vile than acts of perversion. All forms of fornication are the worst type of sins that there are, except blaspheming the Holy Spirit. Further, even regular sexual acts outside of marriage are still acts of perversion because these acts are done outside of God’s will and what God has setup as normal and moral.
Paul makes it clear in 1 Cor. 5 through 8 that Christ cannot be joined to us if we commit such acts. At the moment of that act, Christ removes Himself and the person backslides. Only an unholy Christ could be united with us. And that Christ would not be the true and real Christ. The person is opened up to demonic possession in particular by the incubi or succubi. I cannot believe the tongues of that person nor anything about that person to be of God. Personally, I have dealt with women and men who have these spirits in them.
Paul in 1 Cor. 5 deals with a saint, part of the community of saints, who has committed fornication. Paul sees him as backslidden. Paul does not see him as saved any longer. Paul ex-communicates him from the community and then throws a curse (or judgment) upon him. The curse is that his body will be turned over to destruction so that his soul can be saved.
From that point on, Paul deals with marriage and fornication. Paul re-interprets Jesus’ saying about adultery and fornication and concludes for there to be real fornication, there must be two subjects, man and man, woman and woman, man and woman, man or woman with an animal. Fornication to Paul cannot be committed by one person, that is you can do it upon yourself.
Sin and wickedness have levels to them. Some sins will be destroy your relationship with Lord at the time of committing while others will not.
The easiest way to be possessed is through ungodly sexual behavior. The person opens himself or herself up completely to another emotionally, spiritually, mentally, and physically. Such a union must be sanctioned by God to prevent such negative results from occurring.
To restate what has already been said:
Let us suffice to say, then, that the theme of a “natural function versus the unnatural function” of men permeate both the Old Testament and the New Testament in support of the principle that vaginal intercourse alone is God’s prescription for healthy sexual activity.
It follows that sexual practices such as oral sex (or “falatio”) or anal sex must be considered perversion (sodomy) since, in these instances, as well as other instances such as bestiality or incest, the sexual organs are being used for that which is unnatural in the eyes of God and for which they were neither intended, designed, nor ordained.
Peter warned of this, stating that many people followed they own sensuality and maligned the way of truth by indulging their own flesh (2 Peter 2:2,9,10,18,19,20,21). And again, Paul admonished a church not to make any provision for the flesh and it’s lusts (Romans 13:14), noting that the Body is not for immorality but for the Lord (1 Corinthians 6:13).
And we may conclude from Romans chapter 1 that God’s stance and support of the “natural function” of male and the female coming together to utilize that function, is the only righteous and holy doctrinal position of scripture. Indeed, Paul goes on to say that because of the use of “unnatural functions”, those who partook in such sinful acts, using the sexual organs for functions for which they were not intended, were given over to a STRONG DELUSION.